A friend reminded me this morning that life is like a computer - sometimes you have to de-fragment it in order for it to work a little smoother. Well I agree.
This past week has been a great de-fragmentation week. I guess I have more time on my hands with the lay off last week, but it has been good time. No, GREAT time!
As normal I started by writing a list of 'to-do's. Change this, change that, sign this and send that. All very transactional and all very much needed. As I was on the 10th or 11th written item I stopped and thought to myself if I have a to-do list I also need a to -NOT do list as well!
It was amazing how many things I was able to think about NOT doing! It became longer than the to-do list! This was my de-fragmenting moment. It was the moment I thought to myself "my to-dos really are the important things and the to-not dos are things that I just have to stop!"
Here are a few of the to-not do list:
1. Do NOT make the layoff a negative
2. Do NOT fall into bad eating habits because of this
3. Do NOT stop exercising
4. Do NOT stop letting others help you
5. Do NOT get down on yourself for not being able to help everyone else get through this
6. Do NOT just take a job, find a perfect position to grow and love
You get the picture...some very good de-fragmenting in my head! Had I not done this I really believe I would not be in the state I am today. I am stress free, looking forward to the future, and ready to take on the challenges that lie ahead. I am eating healthy and working out. I am letting others work through the emotions while being there if they need me. I am looking at a position that would be so perfect for me it is kind of scary!
As the weekend approaches, take time to de-fragment! What are you going to do and what are you going to stop doing!
I love your blog! I'm a little further down the road on this journey than you...my lay-off happened about 16 months ago. What a ride! I can relate so well to what you're sharing here! I have also worked in education...primarily young children and adult education, as well as being a parenting instructor.
ReplyDeleteI look forward to coming back to visit your blog! Keep up the good work!